Mental Health Monday #51: Keri Hilson's depression and career hiatus + axing toxic relatives, Oprah on childhood trauma, etc.

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Welcome to another round of Mental Health Monday, your weekly dose of stories, resources, and motivation for your everyday life.On last week's Mental Health Monday, Black Panther star Letitia Wright opens up about how her spirituality has helped hear manage depression, plus why the mental health system won't stop mass shootings, navigating mental illness with children, and much more. Check it out

THIS WEEK'S GOODNESS:

"Keri Hilson Reveals Battle With Depression Led To Her 7-Year Hiatus" by Taylor Honore [XO Necole]

"Although I was at the mountain of my life, really the trajectory of my dream – I was at the pinnacle, you know? I was severely unhappy and then add to that, this is when I decide to jump out of an eleven-year relationship. Bad decision, bad timing," Keri added. "But it all just kind of spiraled for me, and became something I had never been through. I had never recognized myself as a person who can't pick themselves back up. I mean, I was literally on stage crying."

Here's the full discussion via Silence the Shame panel, also featuring philanthropist Shanti Das, xoNecole founder Necole Kane, creator of the GIANTS series James Bland, therapist Dr. Ayanna Abrams, and mental health professional Vaughn Gay:

"Oprah reports on childhood trauma's long-term effects" [CBS News]

DR. BRUCE PERRY: If you have developmental trauma, the truth is you're going to be at risk for almost any kind of physical health, mental health, social health problem that you can think of.

DR. BRUCE PERRY: That very same sensitivity that makes you able to learn language just like that as a little infant makes you highly vulnerable to chaos, threat, inconsistency, unpredictability--

OPRAH WINFREY: Violence.

"Why It’s Okay To Cut Toxic Family Members Out of Your Life" by Cynthia Evans [The Minds Journal]

3. They gaslight you.

If your family member continually claims they never said something, when you and everyone else knows they did, it might not seem that serious. However, this is a form of gaslighting, which is highly emotionally abusive behavior.

 Ronald Hagan, posing with medals of his son Ryan, who completed suicide in November. (photo: Chicago Tribune)

Ronald Hagan, posing with medals of his son Ryan, who completed suicide in November. (photo: Chicago Tribune)

"Researchers unclear why suicide is increasing among black children" by Justin Wm. Moyer [Chicago Tribune]

Researchers say it's not clear why suicide is increasing among black children.

Rheeda Walker, a psychology professor at the University of Houston , said her research into African-American mental health shows possible links between perceived racism and suicide among black youths. And the perception that suicide isn't a black problem makes it difficult for parents, teachers and others to spot warning signs.

"If there is a belief that black children do not kill themselves, there's no reason to use tools to talk about suicide prevention," she said.

"You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship" by Jennifer Williams-Fields [PTSD Journal]

An abusive marriage takes time to build. It’s slow and methodical and incessant, much like a dripping kitchen faucet.

It begins like a little drip you don’t even notice — an off-hand remark that is “just a joke.” I’m told I’m too sensitive and the remark was no big deal. It seems so small and insignificant at the time. I probably am a little too sensitive.

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